Understanding non-verbal communication or synergology is not easy. You have to be able to decode the message that your interlocutor sends without using speech. Whether he is inundating you with words or being more discreet, his gestures are important. It conveys important information.

The liar

He will tend to hide his face. His nostrils will quiver slightly.
He will blink faster.
His eyes will fix a point to the right. He searches his imagination for elements to invent and fuel the discussion.
His right shoulder will move, but his head will remain fixed.
He will scratch his left nostril.
He will wear a forced smile.
His body will be more rigid, as if to defend himself against aggression.
He will usually have his arms crossed and his legs slightly open.
The person who lies will also betray himself by clearing his throat or hesitating sometimes.
A slight trembling of the voice, barely perceptible, can also unmask it.

The honest

On the contrary, the person who speaks candidly will lean slightly towards you, bust forward, in a more relaxed manner.
His pupils will generally be dilated.
His smile will be warm.
His legs and arms, uncrossed.

The uncomfortable

When the other person is uncomfortable in front of you, they tend to clear their throat more often, avoiding looking at you.
The laugh is nervous and jerky.
Sitting firmly in the chair, the person taps the table with the finger, plays with a pencil or fiddles with the clothes.

The comfortable guy

He will lean forward slightly or put his hands on his thighs.
He will sit on the edge of the chair and nod his head regularly in approval.
He will play with a lock of hair.
A frank look and vivid facial expressions will demonstrate his interest.

The confident

Standing, he will adopt an upright position, facing you, often with his hands behind his back.
He will have his head held high and you will notice his attention in his gaze.
If he’s seated, he’ll assume a position three-quarters of the way from your outstretched legs, while leaning back slightly.
If he puts his hands behind his head, you can trust him. By his attitude, he will send you the same message.
A person in defensive mode
She tends to escape your gaze.
Look at his body: he is rigid, his hands are tight or his arms are crossed.
The person frequently lowers their head.
If she is sitting, her feet and / or ankles are crossed.
The person sometimes raises the tone slightly.
A bored or indifferent person
Either way, his gaze will be fixed and vague, without any real expression, and his eyes will not blink much.
Often times the person will rest their chin in the palm of their hand.
She will pat her fingers, or give little kicks, as if to chase away boredom.
She will cross her legs and you will have a hard time capturing her attention.

The aggressive

He furrows his eyebrows and supports your gaze, while his pupils are constricted.
His arms are stretched out.
If there is an object nearby, such as a table, he will pick it up.
He sometimes points his index finger or puts his hands on his hips.
It slowly but surely invades your personal space (between 30 and one meter, depending on the person).

The seductor

If this person sits three-quarters of the way from you, you should make initial contact without too much difficulty.
When you approach him, his eyes are smiling.
If the pupils dilate a little, go ahead. Start a conversation and invite her over for a drink, a coffee.
Okay, you’ve been together for over forty-five minutes. Observe these gestures carefully:
If you make the same gestures, take your drink simultaneously for example, you unconsciously feel certain affinities.
The smiles multiply.
One or the other will inevitably run their hand through their hair.
Then you will move closer, slowly, until you touch yourself.
Look at the base of his neck. If the interest turns sexual, small red marks will appear.

There is no second chance for the first impression.

Gestures have a precise meaning that we do not necessarily know.

Unconsciously, they can have a positive or negative impact on the relationships we have with our interlocutors. Also, knowing their secrets can help us improve and harmonize our image.

In fact, communication takes place through language, but also through small revealing gestures often taken unconsciously. More than half of the message you want to convey will come from your actions, your facial expressions and not your words. This type of communication relies on the eyes, of course, but also on body language in general.

To analyze your gestures and determine if they are positive and beneficial or, on the contrary, if it is better bodily, here is the meaning of the most common gestures:

1. Framing or holding his face with his hands, elbows on a table reveals a character, dreamy, imaginative, thoughtful or intuitive.
2. To bite your lips is the desire to seduce or to taste a dish.
3. Running the fingers over his lips refers to a stressful or manipulative character.
4. Crossing one’s arms signifies an easily influenced and sensitive character or detachment from conversation. Crossing your arms while holding your biceps reveals a need for protection.
5. Throwing your hair back is a sign of being opportunistic or narcissistic.
6. Wiggling her hair reveals a dreamy character or a sign of boredom.
7. Scratching the back of the head is a sign of doubt or mental calculation, and the sides of the head is sign of sadness or grief.
8. Scratching the right part of the forehead feels like wasting time, and the left part a character taking refuge in the imagination.
9. Supporting one’s face at chin level with the fingers or fist of the left hand corresponds to a nervous character, the same with the fingers or the fist of the right hand to a committed character.
10. Scratching the right side of the nose means misunderstanding, and the left side of the nose means questioning.
11. Rubbing the backs of the hands while talking is a sign of nervousness or lying.
12. Looking up while explaining something reveals a sense of discomfort or inventiveness.
13. Looking away from the other person corresponds to shyness or a feeling of discomfort.
14. Gesticulating hands while speaking reveals an expressive, theatrical, extroverted character.
15. Hiding his hands means a feeling of discomfort or secrecy.

Even those most experienced in non-verbal communication will not be able to hide these gestures which, sooner or later, will betray them. Observe your next caller carefully. He could reveal things to you that are unmentionable. Fascinating!

There is no second chance for a first impression.