Understanding non-verbal communication or synergology is not easy. You have to be able to decode the message that your interlocutor sends without using speech. Whether he is inundating you with words or being more discreet, his gestures are important. It conveys important information.
He will tend to hide his face. His nostrils will quiver slightly.
He will blink faster.
His eyes will fix a point to the right. He searches his imagination for elements to invent and fuel the discussion.
His right shoulder will move, but his head will remain fixed.
He will scratch his left nostril.
He will wear a forced smile.
His body will be more rigid, as if to defend himself against aggression.
He will usually have his arms crossed and his legs slightly open.
The person who lies will also betray himself by clearing his throat or hesitating sometimes.
A slight trembling of the voice, barely perceptible, can also unmask it.
On the contrary, the person who speaks candidly will lean slightly towards you, bust forward, in a more relaxed manner.
His pupils will generally be dilated.
His smile will be warm.
His legs and arms, uncrossed.
When the other person is uncomfortable in front of you, they tend to clear their throat more often, avoiding looking at you.
The laugh is nervous and jerky.
Sitting firmly in the chair, the person taps the table with the finger, plays with a pencil or fiddles with the clothes.
The comfortable guy
He will lean forward slightly or put his hands on his thighs.
He will sit on the edge of the chair and nod his head regularly in approval.
He will play with a lock of hair.
A frank look and vivid facial expressions will demonstrate his interest.
Standing, he will adopt an upright position, facing you, often with his hands behind his back.
He will have his head held high and you will notice his attention in his gaze.
If he’s seated, he’ll assume a position three-quarters of the way from your outstretched legs, while leaning back slightly.
If he puts his hands behind his head, you can trust him. By his attitude, he will send you the same message.
A person in defensive mode
She tends to escape your gaze.
Look at his body: he is rigid, his hands are tight or his arms are crossed.
The person frequently lowers their head.
If she is sitting, her feet and / or ankles are crossed.
The person sometimes raises the tone slightly.
A bored or indifferent person
Either way, his gaze will be fixed and vague, without any real expression, and his eyes will not blink much.
Often times the person will rest their chin in the palm of their hand.
She will pat her fingers, or give little kicks, as if to chase away boredom.
She will cross her legs and you will have a hard time capturing her attention.
He furrows his eyebrows and supports your gaze, while his pupils are constricted.
His arms are stretched out.
If there is an object nearby, such as a table, he will pick it up.
He sometimes points his index finger or puts his hands on his hips.
It slowly but surely invades your personal space (between 30 and one meter, depending on the person).
If this person sits three-quarters of the way from you, you should make initial contact without too much difficulty.
When you approach him, his eyes are smiling.
If the pupils dilate a little, go ahead. Start a conversation and invite her over for a drink, a coffee.
Okay, you’ve been together for over forty-five minutes. Observe these gestures carefully:
If you make the same gestures, take your drink simultaneously for example, you unconsciously feel certain affinities.
The smiles multiply.
One or the other will inevitably run their hand through their hair.
Then you will move closer, slowly, until you touch yourself.
Look at the base of his neck. If the interest turns sexual, small red marks will appear.
There is no second chance for the first impression.